Episode 1 Intro

Good Morning! This is Sex Without Fear, where we are making the world a better place with sex positive education and awareness! I'm Amber Radical, and I'm a birth worker in Northern California, currently writing a book on my experience as a child rape victim born in the 90's. Today I want to sort of introduce myself, and this project, and get you guys excited for these upcoming episodes. Sex Without Fear was certainly inspired by my experience as a teen mother. 19. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my oldest son. When I found myself on the delivery table during a very traumatic long labor, 19 years of not dealing with my sexual trauma all came flooding over me, and after that experience I found myself getting support from BIRTH WITHOUT FEAR online-an educational and empowering resource for birthing people. That community did so much for me to prepare for my second birth-done safely at home. I've spent the last 8 years as a mother, as a local birth worker and family worker, and under it all, I've kept a heavy focus on healing my own trauma, while helping the women around me process the same. How many of us are walking around with fears around sex, and it's affecting every aspect of their life? I found myself creating resources on preventing childhood sexual abuse, I found myself connecting to the "out of the ordinary" communities to understand their stories and fetishes, and I found myself writing blogs, soaking up podcasts, and now here I am...a bit consumed by the topics of sex: the good, the misunderstood, the understudied, and the dark. I guess I was unravelling the negatives, so that we could all enjoy the good that sex brings to our lives. Much in the same way Birth Without Fear has done for their community. I naturally tag lined this line of my work as "Sex Without Fear" inspired by birth without fear, and it's sort of just stuck. I hope in no way does the BWF community find this plaguistic or rude, but rather a long lasting celebration of the work they did for me and how their line stayed in my head my whole birth: "without fear! without fear!" There was no fear, because I was educated, empowered, in control, and consenting. I wanted people to have this same feeling when it came to sex and their traumas, confusions, and loneliness. So yes, I'm a mom, a young mom, of two boys. My education is not complete by any means, and the perspective I'm sharing through these podcasts are meant to be valued by what I can bring to the table as a victim with an underrepresented but common child sexualt assault story. We need professionals at the table, AND we need victims to the table. -let me apologize ahead of time...i can't break my cussing habit. I'm sorry. I'm really not recommending these podcasts near children anyways, but not because of the Fuck word...because you should be the one to introduce some of the sensitive topics that will be discussed throughout. Let yourself be the filter between anything you learn here and how it's presented to your kids. I wont get into my story here much, but I will say I have the type of past that require experienced therapists, and every single one that has worked with me has told me that I may be able to help bridge the gap with my kind of story and the way society sees these issues. What I'm saying is, I'm pre-defending my right to be here, while acknowledging it's not the science that I'm specializing in on these topics. What we will we be talking about here? Actually, everything. If you know me in real life, you know how accurate "everything" is. But it will all sort of tie into sex and society here. I want to talk about it all, because it all matters. What don't we know? What are we still trying to study? What communities aren't being heard? Why is that one rapper obsessed with his daughters hymen? Why don't we have a statue of Lorena Bobbitt? Who is lilith, and whyyyyy was she not given to me as a young girl? How do we help maternal death in our country and around the world? What really are pedophiles and how are we supposed to be handling this? What the fucking is Qanon and are babies being sold on wayfair? I'm hitting it all. And I'm excited. Because as a child victim myself trying to navigate this world of panic epidemics, I consume a lot of podcasts, videos, and blogs on these things, and not many are coming from perspectives like mine. I'm just here making a place at the table next to the therapists and professional entertainers. Meekly of course, "hi!" but yeah, I've always had a lot to say, and I'm so sorry my partner bought me everything to make my extroverted dreams come true: Mic, Camera, Recording equipment. I think he believes in me. Also Maybe he's lightening his load by giving me a platform. So welcome to Sex Without Fear. Sometimes I'll be serious, sometimes I'll be charming. But we are gonna get somewhere with this! I'd love your support on all my projects! Find me at www. Amberadical dot com ...slash: sexwithoutfear facebook: sex without fear I work with low income, at risk, and special needs families the most during the most vulnerable times in their lives. I am currently writing a book, running a local rape support group, and currently about to begin midwifery school, with the near goal of international work. There is literally ALWAYS a need happening in any and all of these projects, if you'd like to donate... Donate: venmo: amberadical or use simply use any of the donate buttons on my website at amberadical.com